So you and your high school sweetheart have just graduated from high school and are pursuing your college degree. Unfortunately, the two of you will be attending two totally different colleges hundreds of miles apart, but you both want to continue the relationship. How is this going to work? Can this work? Can love actually conquer the fears and obstacles that long distance relationships bring?
First and foremost, it is very imperative, extremely crucial that before you decide to continue your relationship, you establish trust with your significant other. Trust may actually be the most important element of any relationship in general. Trust, unlike a Cinderella solution, is not something that can be achieved overnight. With long distance relationships, there is always typically a thought in the back of ones mind that their significant other will fall for someone else at any moment. Fortunately, there are ways to combat these fears and keep your partners mind at ease. For instance, keep the line of communication open. If you are going out to the mall, a school game or even a job interview, let your significant other know your whereabouts. Spontaneous disappearances may leave your partner to wonder, “Where is he? What is he doing? Who is he with?” Also, if at all possible, be accessible at all times. Unless your in class, work, or in a professional setting, your sweetheart should be a simple call or text away.
Secondly, make time for your long distance lover. Constantly being apart can usually lead to a lack of common ground. By this I mean your conversation soon becomes, “So, how was your day? Uh, what are you doing later? Mmm… are you sleepy?” Phone conversation, text messages, emails, and instant messages will soon become boring, tedious, and redundant. Spending some time together (even though it may not be physically) whenever possible is very important. For instance, the two of you could rent the same movie and watch it or read the same book. Even laying out at night under the stars and discussing what you see while on the phone can spark up new conversation. Try new and exciting things to make your conversation interesting and make it seem like you’re not so far apart.
Finally, show your love every chance you get. It’s easy to verbally tell your significant other that you love her but showing her takes a little creativity when you’re hundreds of miles apart. Remember, the thought is what counts most. Expensive and grand gifts are always gladly accepted, but usually require very little thought or creativity. Try leaving a cute voice message on her cell phone at night or in the morning before she starts her day. Mail her random love letters and personalized cards in the mail. Surprised visits are always the absolute best and most thoughtful gesture. As long as the gesture is genuine and heart-felt, it doesn’t matter how cheesy or “small” it is.
Long distance relationships require hard work, dedication, and trust, and sincere love. Sometimes it may seem too difficult, almost impossible to continue, but if it’s true love, it’s worth fighting for.